Undiagnosed Chronic Fatigue (CFS) messes with your mind...

If Diabetes is a silent killer, then Chronic Fatigue is a sneaky bastard.  It is an illness that doesn't look like an illness.  It masquerades as a whole bunch of other issues:

• ADD/ADHD
• Depression
• Laziness
• Being out of shape
• Migraines
• Tension Headaches
• Colds
• Allergies
• Forgetfulness
• Vitamin D Deficiency
• IBS
• Flu
• Pulled Muscles
• Self-Centeredness
• Lack of Passion/Drive/Interest/Caring
• TMJ
• Insomnia
• Anxiety

While each of these issues can be present in the life of someone (say... Me) with CFS, until you realize that they are caused or made worse by Chronic Fatigue, you can't fix them.  And, with these as your primary symptoms , it's hard to see that they may actually be caused by the same problem.  They appear to be so unrelated.  

The physical issues - headaches, colds/flues, muscle pain - all seem like isolated events that have common causes.  Then we have the mind/emotional issues - depression, forgetfulness, being self-centered, ADD - that are often all lumped together and "fixed" with medication and thought-process counseling.  

In fact, many people don't even get diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue until they've pushed themselves so hard that their body just completely shuts down and goes on strike.  It takes an absolute breakdown to see that these warning signs have been indicating a bigger problem.

What does this mean for someone who has Chronic Fatigue but doesn't know it?  It means they have a list half a page long of 'issues' that they are trying to deal with.  And that nothing actually solves the problems.  With this pattern, it's easy to see why most people with CFS are misdiagnosed as having severe depression.  

In fact, I remember telling my doctor (after 5 years of on-again/off-again depression treatment), "I don't think my tiredness is because of depression.  I'm pretty sure the depression is caused by my lack of energy and how that affects my life."  It took another couple of years and 2 other doctors before I was finally diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue.  And then, it was only given along with my Fibromyalgia diagnosis.  

For the record, looking back I'm pretty sure I had Chronic Fatigue long before I had Fibro symptoms.  But that's a post for a different day.

Since being diagnosed, it has been an interesting journey.  There is, of course, the grieving process that goes along with any chronic illness.  (Again, a post for a different day).  But since I reached acceptance, I've been getting to know myself all over again.  I no longer have a half-page list of issues to work on.  I don't think of myself as the person that gets any medical problem that comes within 10 miles of me.  

Now I know that I have ONE issue that has lots of ways of showing itself.  But I've already learned a few ways to take care of this one issue.  Rather than living in constant fear of the horde of problems always waiting to ambush me, I'm learning how to control the big beast.  It's brought back my confidence.  I may only be awake for 5 hours at a time.  But each 5 hour segment is more vibrant than the dreary 17 hour days were.